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Monday 25 April 2016

How to be Miserable, Take Four: 10 More Plans

On May 1 of this year New Harbinger Publications will release my latest book, How to be Miserable: Forty Strategies You Already Use. In it, I invite readers to contemplate how they could reduce their happiness and life satisfaction if, for some reason, that was their goal.

Why bother? Most of us spend much of our lives trying to arrange things so that we feel happier and more contented with our lives - and often we feel stuck or frustrated. We never ask ourselves how we could feel worse. But doing so can illuminate a road that runs in both directions. By understanding how we could lower our mood, we can often see more clearly how to raise it.

Here are the answers from 10 more attendees at these talks. How do they compare with your own?

  • Spend time with my ex-husband.
  • Overwhelm myself with tasks I can't fulfill, or commit to a mundane project.
  • Spend too much money.

  • Have only negative thoughts.
  • Do nothing; be inactive.
  • Get no sleep and eat crappy food.

  • Don't do what I want.
  • Become too emotional.
  • Care too much what others think of me.

  • Drink all night long.
  • Go to a party with teenagers.
  • Spend time with very young children.

  • Not being able to do what makes me who I am.
  • Not being able to see my friends.
  • Not cooking for myself and not having my small glass of wine when I want.

  • Live in the street.
  • Sleep for an hour a day.
  • Not talking with anybody.

  • Constantly live in isolation.
  • Always focus on feeling persecuted.
  • Talk negatively to myself.

  • Do the same things every day with no ultimate goals.
  • Have no emotional involvement with anyone.
  • Make no progress toward my goals.

  • Alienate myself from others and become socially isolated.
  • Gain weight.
  • Become ill and unable to have free movement.

  • Don't go to my parents' for dinner.
  • Don't read.
  • Don't go to dinner with my meetup group.

What about you? If you could change only three things in the quest for unhappiness, what would YOU do?

How to be Miserable is available for pre-order from Amazon and other online booksellers now.

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